The Best Cougar Dating Advice
If you’re looking to meet cougars online for fun and dating, here’s some advice on how to make your profile appealing. Follow these tips and you should have an inbox full of potential cougar dates!
Have clear pictures on your profile. Try a mixture of ‘professional’ shots - not by a pro photographer, we mean you in smart work attire - and a few that show that you’re a well-rounded person, more casual pics of yourself at bars, music festivals, traveling, and so on.
If you’re confident about your body and you want to include a shirtless pic, try and find a reason to do so - use one of you at the beach, or jumping into a pool, so there’s a reason for being shirtless! Women will find gratuitous shirtlessness tasteless and unappealing.
Hopefully you’re well-dressed, and attractive enough. If you’re not, consider asking a sister or a female friend to give you an image overhaul before setting up your profile. They’ll be delighted and you get a free consultation with the people best-placed to tell you exactly what women find attractive - so use it!
Fill out your profile truthfully and thoroughly. Keep your interests, tastes and reference points broad enough to appeal to a lot of people, but don’t lie, whatever you do.
Try to come off like a cool, well-rounded, person. Mention being active, working out, hiking etc. but not too much - yoga is cliche, for example - and only if it’s true!
Cougars are likely to be impressed that you have you shit together, so talk about the varied, intellectual, artistic hobbies that you have. And if you don’t have some, do yourself a favour and get some. You’re not even going to get a one-off fling if the cougar thinks you’re not going to turn up, or if you’re going to ask her to lend you a twenty afterwards.
This is a big one, and it’s kind of the most difficult one. Make sure it seems like you’re financially solvent. It’s hard to hint at on an online dating profile, but if you mention you have hobbies like travel, surfing, etc., the cougar will get the point. They don’t want to be fucking with some broke scrub in his twenties - cougars are generally loaded and they have kids and don’t need another mouth to feed!
Older women take the time to read profiles and understand them - they’re generally not following some sort of ‘game plan’ of swiping left on hundreds of pictures, or firing off the same introductory message to dozens of guys to bait them.
Their profiles will generally be long and contain one or two ‘facts’ or ‘dealbreakers’ about themselves. Make sure you read these and reference them! Remember to compliment them on their profile, when you get around to messaging them - they will appreciate it because they will have put a lot of time and thought into their profiles.
When you find a cougar’s profile - with your age range on, or even just by accident - read the profile, through, then read it again. Make your browser window full-screen. Make it the only thing you’re focusing on. Turn your music or that podcast off and read the profile about three or four times.
Your first message has to be good. Don’t just say ‘hey’. Don’t mention 'I like older women'. Don’t say ‘I'm mature for my age!’ These are tired tropes of dealing with cougars. Don’t mention age at all. Message her about something from her profile. When she replies, keep the chat going. Pretend you’re making small talk at a party. And ask if she wants to meet for a drink within five longish messages - this isn’t MySpace, man. Make the move.
Be honest, direct and respectful. Be sincere. And don’t think you have a chance in hell of pulling the wool over her eyes - she’s going to be calling the shots!
The people who will find it easiest to meet cougars are straight white males, employed, college or university grads, living in metropolitan areas. If you can ‘tick all these boxes’, you will have a larger pool of respondents to choose from and more chances for success.
So what’s the moral of the story? As long as your profile is fully complete, makes you seem like a normal, functioning member of society with their own life sorted out and their own shit together (as well as, obviously, attractive), and you can talk to women as if they’re people, you stand a good chance of meeting and dating cougars online.